What Mom Really Wants

Tomorrow, May 8th is my birthday…every
year my birthday falls during the same
week as Mothers Day so like those of you with birthdays on or near Christmas you may be thinking I feel short changed.

Actually, I am grateful because as you get older birthdays like other holiday’s that are supposed to be filled with so much joy and happiness can really be a time of sadness, emptiness and loneliness for so many people.

I know I have felt like this at times, so the fact that Mothers Day and my birthday are often wrapped into one I see as a blessing, I only have to ride the rollercoaster of emotions once per year instead of twice.

Now before you start thinking this is a sappy, pitiful, woe-is-me article, I assure you it is not.

The weekend ahead sparked a conversation this morning with my oldest daughter. And that conversation got me thinking about a lot of things which I want to share because I am certain many other mothers feel the same way when Mothers Day and/our birthdays come around.

Children have absolutely no problem telling us what they want for their birthdays, or any other holiday. For that matter it doesn’t even have to be a holiday, our children are constantly telling us what they want.

As we become adults however, we turn silent. We don’t feel it is appropriate to tell others what we want and/or need. Maybe we have become so independent that we just take care of our needs ourselves.

Maybe with think others should just know what we want and need.

After pondering this for awhile I realized this is completely unfair to those close to us. It puts an unrealistic expectation on them to meet our needs by essentially reading our minds and it sets us up for disappointment.

So what is it that Mothers really want on Mother’s Day or on their birthday?

The same thing all people want….To be made to feel special.

And no one deserves it more than mothers.

Now I can’t speak for all mothers out there, but think about all of the things a mother does for their child. The countless sleepless nights, the time given to caring for and keeping you safe.

You may never fully know the sacrifices your mother made to invest in you but now that I am a mother I know how much of my life revolves around my children. They are my number one priority! I would give anything including my very life for them and I bet your mother would for you too.

So thinking about your mom and all she has done and continues to do for you, you have to ask yourself. What am I doing to make my mom feel special? To communicate to her how much I appreciate the sacrifices she has made and is making for me.

Is a cake, candy and a card what she really wants and needs from me?

Maybe your mom is trying to lose weight and or eat healthier and cake is the last thing she wants. Maybe she would prefer a small slice of key lime pie, a hand written note and a foot rub.

Maybe she just wants some of your undivided attention and time.

Point is you need to find out what will make your mom feel special. What can you do to pro-actively communicate to her that she IS important and that you appreciate her and all she has done for you.

And moms this is where we need to be more forthright and clear and express our needs. Don’t expect those in your life to be mind readers…lets be like children again and tell our children and spouses what we want and need from them!

We should not be embarrassed or afraid to speak up. Good grief…we give so much to those we love it is NOT too much to ask for them to put us on a pedestal 2 days out of the year!

Moms don’t let another Mother’s Day go by and end up disappointed because you failed to ask for what you wanted.

And for all of us with mothers still alive let’s be sure to do something this year to make them feel special.

If you have made it to the end of this post then you may be thinking (and I hope you are) “what can I do to make my mom feel special?” I have a suggestion to help get you started.

Here are a few questions that I PROMISE any mother would love to hear from her child. You are her baby, I can’t imagine a mother who doesn’t want to have a special relationship with her children but it goes two ways, we must be willing to put in the time to really know our moms.

Mom…what can I do to make you feel really special on this Mothers Day? (This works for birthday’s too.)
What makes you happy?
What dreams do you have for the future?
Do you like cake? what kind?
What would be your perfect day?

Thanks for reading…

HAPPY MOTHERS DAY

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